Hello friends and welcome to another podcast Nourishing Time with Salema.
An evolving space dedicated to mindful self enquiry prompts & practices for zen living in the age of technology.
This week l start the podcast and post with a poem around self-worth as the thread. My last few podcasts have explored the importance of what it means to tap back into our unique presence. Cultivating presence helps us re-nourish our strength, resilience, confidence, self esteem and belief, belief in ourself.
Values & Virtues - The Joy of coming back to yourself
Friends or foe?
No road map as such, so how can l really know?
Fear, the unfriendly signpost
So who can l trust to show me the way now?
Fields of green, nature becomes my friend
A call to adventure
Fiction or reality
Old enough now to know
Aligned or misaligned
Did l go wrong?
No need to apologise for whom l’ve become
No more second guessing
No longer under the influence
Honesty with self
Ascending and trusting my inner compass
Freedom to choose what matters
Moving along
Making sense of LIFE from a fresh perspective
Learning, a lifelong lesson
Humble to stay open
What do l see?
A new way of being emerges
Illuminating my path and strengthening my presence
Honouring what is dear to me
Relearned my worth
Found purpose once more and found my highest myself
salemaveliu©2024
When l consider presence, Value comes to mind. Our individual value as well as what we value, in other words what matters to us (secondary values). Both these primary and secondary values in affect become our navigational guide posts along life’s journey. Influencing how we show up in the world. It is during this journey where we often begin to question and explore how we can become the best version of ourselves.
Without these guide posts we can often feel life holds no meaning/purpose for us. Often asking the following questions frequently as we undertake said journey what is life? And what is my life purpose while l’m here?
So what is the answer for you?
Checking in with your values and virtues is a good place to start.
However, before we move on let’s just briefly clarify the different types of Values of which there are many but the ones below are the ones we’re focusing on today.
Primary Values:
Primary (Core) values are strong and normally centred around your beliefs on life, work, family and the world re-enforced by family, government and often religion but not spirituality.
Fixed and normally born out of our formative and early years.
Ethical, Cultural.
Secondary Values: Ongoing and flexible changes with age, environmental and mental state.
Material, Communal, Spiritual.
Now let’s define the difference between Values and Virtues.
VALUE (Importance)
Moral principles, ethics, code, standards, codes of behaviour, rules of conduct, merit, worth.
VIRTUE (Moral Positive Traits/Attributes)
Dignity, honour, honesty, integrity, strength, talent.
Getting lost in others values, from what we see and hear all via the media does impact our values and virtues. Unconsciously making an imprint in our subconscious and often affecting our beliefs and behaviours in the process.
Without a strong sense of self, we can sometimes find ourselves lost. Lost in the abyss, of feeling like we are not enough. More prevalent in todays society with so much emphasis placed upon perfection. Being imperfect doesn’t seem to option or does it?
Getting to truly know yourself can be and is normally a lifelong lesson if you’re willing to be a constant student of life.
Our beliefs directly affect our values. Normally instilled from our younger years, our environment, parents, family and education they form part of our early identity.
However, our identify changes because of our experiences. Feeling lost can come from not realising that your values have changed and no longer match who you’ve become.
Therefore, trying to live by outdated values when you have changed as a person then becomes the disconnect. I’ve seen and experienced this so many times with clients when coaching over the years. A relatively simple issue to resolve if your willing to undertake a proper life review and every now and then.
Yes, you will have core values ingrained from that early childhood, however the other secondary values will have changed. It is in this realisation that you can break free by making choices that align with who you are in the present.
What follows are some simple prompts to help you explore, review and reset your values and recognise your virtues in the process.
Practice & Prompts
Go grab a pen and paper or your journal before we start.
Primary (Core) values are strong and normally centred around your beliefs on life, work, family and the world re-enforced by family, government and often religion but not spirituality.
So what are you core primary values? Can you name them?
List them and then ask yourself the following:
Why do each of this p values matter to me?
Where did these p values come from? Family, education, experiences?
Are they still relevant to who l Am now?
Am l still living by this p values really?
What matters to me now?
What would you like to change?
Secondly values are more flexible and open to change to understand these ask yourself the following:
What matters to me currently?
What motivates me currently?
What do you believe currently?
What is true for you about the world? your life?
What are you contemplating currently?
Are you journalling?
What is the most interesting thing you heard recently?
What are you most proud of when it comes to you?
What’s the one thing you really want to do but have never done, and why?
What’s hold you back from doing/ feeling how you want to?
What can help you become the best/happiest version of yourself?
What can you/needs to change?
It is often interesting to see how by our responses to these questions things we may not have realised about our growth and/or stagnation. So l invite you to be brutally honest. Acknowledging your self worth and find joy in coming back to yourself.
Thank you for being here.
Thank you for being you.
Thank you for your presence, it matters.
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