As we approach the Bank Holiday weekend here in the UK, most of us are looking forward to a slightly longer weekend to re-nourish ourselves. Tempted by the illusion of time that affords us to pause, review and reset.
However, usually in our bid to feel we’ve accomplished something with our time off we often skip the precious gift of allowing ourselves to just be. Filling the time with other things and commitments only to wand up feeling exhausted and in need of a holiday! Sound familiar?
How about using this time instead to prioritise your chores and commitments whilst also factoring in some you time? Giving yourself permission to fade into your favourite cosy environment, a self-retreat a staycation of sorts to just be and be you?
In this piece l offer you a short meditation affectionately named Strengthen Your Presence along with some prompts to increase your receptivity to yourself (your intuition and wisdom). Relaxing and honouring your responses to people, places and things allowing a refresh and reset of your peace of mind.
In my previous pieces l’ve spoken about cultivating this manner of simplicity by looking at your daily structure (please see previous posts).
Today, l want to go a bit further by touching upon how by adding the concept of boundaries to the mix may just help you to just be. Studying Boundaries at University and then in Therapy and Coaching, l began to see how the lack of them had affected certain behaviours in my family as well as others.
Boundaries are when you come into a resonance with your values, respected by others.
- Salema Veliu
However, not understanding what Boundaries are and the lack of them can have a serious impact on our mental health and behaviours. For example some of the conditions that l studied that can arise out of or increase are; Co-dependency, Anger, Addiction and personality disorders.
Personal boundaries are the limits we set in relationships that allow us to protect our selves from being manipulated by, or enmeshed with, emotionally needy others. Such boundaries come from having a good sense of our own self-worth.
- John Stibbs
Coming into a quiet resonance with your values requires deep listening. Listening within can help us unfold and review what matters to us the most in the present. Fortifying our own self-worth in the process.
Part of learning the invisibility of applying such boundaries often lays in how we talk about ourselves, the environments and people we find ourselves in. By being honest in our communication with ourselves and others in establishing and maintaining our values and boundaries, will help improve our overall sense of stability. Encouraging a more harmonious and nonjudgmental atmosphere.
Meditation Segment
Prompts to strengthen your presence using values and boundaries as a baseline
Does this environment harmonise with how l’m feeling, wanting to experience and see?
If not how can l express that truthfully?
What matters in this moment, this. experience?
How do l want to feel?
Why aren’t l feeling happy about this?
Am l saying yes/no just to keep the peace?
When do l need to say no thank you, this doesn’t work for me?
How can l ask for what feels right for me without causing offence?
I hope you have found this post and podcast interesting and helpful.
Until next time remember to mean well, live well and be well.
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